True Friends True Love

I had a relationship with someone for a very long time. In a large part of the early years I would tell people I was his friend but never said he was my friend. It was a complicated relationship but suffice it to say that I gave him a lot more than he gave me. Then things changed and he began to be a better friend after realizing, for himself, what I just described. And the relationship was good for a time.

Maybe it was just his nature, but things began to move back toward him taking advantage and me giving more than he was giving in the relationship. Eventually, he got mad and he cancelled our friendship. Abruptly, and to me, without real reason to end the relationship. But, that was his choice. I did not contact him. He did contact me, but he never asked me how I was doing, if I was okay, if I needed anything. No, he contacted me to tell me how wrong I was to put him in the position that he ended the relationship. He couldn't believe I was willing to throw away a relationship that had lasted that many years.

But, here's the thing: I didn't. He did. He contacted me several times with lies and threats, but I never responded to those messages. If I were to respond to a message from him it would have to be a message that included the questions how I'm doing or if I'm okay. He has yet to ask any question of me about my wellbeing. Just making threats and telling lies. Why would I respond to that?

A true friend who truly loves you is always going to put your wellbeing ahead of anything else. If there are problems within the friendship, a true friend is going to come to you and talk it through, not slam the door in your face. Then come back later and make out that it was your fault they slammed the door in your face. That's narcissism. It's not friendship and it's not love.

I do have true friends who share true love with me. I may not have a large number of friends in my circle, but I do have true friends in my circle. And I don't have time or energy to deal with someone who is only concerned with themself and wants to turn problems that they have caused around and try to put the blame on me. I've dealt with that enough in my life and I'm not going to deal with it any longer.

As far as anything else goes, God's in control, not me. And I lay all my problems at the throne and leave them there. He'll take care of that for me. I won't worry and I won't fret, because God has never failed me yet.